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FIVE: THE BITTER AND THE SWEET-
The question has been asked, "Is it right for a missionary to send his kids away from home to a boarding school?" Indeed, should any Bible believing father send his kids to live away from him for long periods of time for any reason?
When a kid runs away from home the family, and the local church, will see this as rebellion, and everyone starts praying that the kid will repent and come home. So, when Daddy runs the kid off, saying, "Your mother and I can have more time to serve the Lord with your gone," that is explained as a good spiritual sacrificial spirit.
Almost no one wants to deal with this question, so I will. Because of my experience in the issue personally, I feel I must talk about it so that others will sit up and take notice.
This troubling issue applies to more than missionaries. For example, should a man voluntarily join the military and leave his kids without his personal care? It is one thing to be drafted or conscripted into military service, but to choose this at the expense of the biblical family unit-- is this possible and be faithful to God and his Word?
Also, there are truck drivers who live on the road trying to pay off a truck while Momma and the kids fend for themselves spiritually and emotionally. After a haul from Omaha to LA, a "back haul" to Seattle, another "back haul" to Nogales, Arizona, and finally, a last "back haul" with a load of "garbage" to Omaha, Daddy is home after three weeks for a three day stay. And then, "Gotta pay for this rig," and Johnny once again thinks, "Daddy loves that truck more then he loves me."
And, you, missionary and evangelist Daddy, do the same thing when you put "the preaching of the Gospel" ahead of raising godly children. Your young children are not able to understand the perverted Calvinist logic you use, something about the sovereignty of God?
Let me first establish God's standard before I give you my perspective:
Deuteronomy 6:4 Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God is one LORD:
5 And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.
6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:
7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
It is impossible to obey verse 7 and ship your kids out of your home. Nor can you do verse 7 while driving a big rig all over the USA or up the track to Alice. There is no way to twist this context to imply that God meant for the Hebrew people to find good godly surrogate parents for this kids. This first text establishes the over arching metanarrative for the believing father in the home with children. Before we try to justify our actions we must decide whether or not the Word of God is the only standard for the Christian father. If not, then run your kids out of the house and let the Devil have them. Or, perhaps a dose of Calvinism would work-- if God wants them to be godly and prosper in the faith, God will find a way to do that.
My metanarrative is the King James Bible, and I refuse to give you a pass on one single truth in it.
Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Father, YOU bring them up "father," not some dorm parent, especially one who has not even had children of their own and has a track record of doing it well.
Isaiah 28:9 Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts.
10 For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little:
This process implies, by the repetitive phrasing, that the child starts at the breast of his mother and is taught little by little, with Daddy leading, over the child's whole childhood and youth, the precepts of God and his Word. This cannot be accomplished in keeping with God's intentions by only having that child at home one third of the time. Nor can it be taught in Omaha while Daddy is running the roads doing God a big favor of some sort.
Genesis 18:18 Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him?
19 For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.
So, when you send your kid away from home, do not whine when he comes home with commandments that you would not have taught him. Abraham kept Isaac at home until he was well into his adult years. Abraham sent Ishmael away, and now you have ISIS, Al Qaeda, and one billion people in slavery to Allah.
Proverbs 20:7 The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.
We kids were at school for three months and home for one month, and this repetition made for nine months of school a year. In order to have a whole year with my parents before college, I stayed in Africa and worked with Dad and Mom for a year after I graduated from Rift Valley Academy. I stood on the dock with the parents as the kids boarded the lake steamer and sailed away. I saw for the first time what some of the missionaries were like when their kids were not watching. Some broke down and bawled like babies. They sensed that something was very wrong in this decision.
But, most of the missionary parents changed countenance at once. Some actually became jolly and seemed relieved to be rid of their kids. It was revolting. But it got worse.
There was nasty gossip, bawdy sexual humor, antagonistic behavior, and yes, even some rather obvious flirting by married men with younger single lady missionaries. They would never do these things in front of their kids. Well, those missionaries were not walking in their integrity as in the last verse quoted above. Their godly walk needed to last only one month in four.
I thank God for that last year in Africa, for I saw that the fruit of sending kids away from home was exceedingly wicked. In fact, I became so revolted with some of the missionaries that I avoided many of them whom I had formerly respected highly. I realized that they were the worst sort of traitors to Christ.
WE ARE NOT DONE YET-- STAY WITH ME PLEASE:
The notion that a good missionary sends his kids away to boarding school so that he can accomplish more work for the Lord-- this is all horse leavings. The top priority for the man of God is first his wife, then his kids, and then the work of the ministry. Indeed, when any Christian, even out of good intentions, runs his kids out of his home in order to do great things for God, he is a crass hypocrite. The greatest work of a man of God is to leave children who will do the work of God after him.
Billy Sunday virtually abandoned his kids to his wife. Every one of Billy Sunday's kids become atheists. Al Capone had more respect for Billy Sunday than his kids did. Capone used to sit in the back of the tabernacle at Wynona Lake and listen to Sunday preach while hiding from the FBI.
David Livingston married the daughter of John Moffit, the missionary in South Africa. Livingston's wife became very sick and mentally affected by life in Africa, so Livingston took her back to England with their children, and he never saw her again. After her death he married a native woman in Africa. If the natives were good enough to marry in the end, they would have been good enough in the beginning. And, I have no problem with his marrying the African lady. But, I will never exalt that man as an example of anything except that he was a pretty good explorer. Tom Horn, the famous trader on the rivers of West Africa, declared that Livingston would have made a great trader, but Horn mocked at Livingston's abandoning his wife and kids. As to the Gospel, Livingston accomplished very little fruit that remained.
Livingston's motto, which is in the graphic at the right, was quite sound biblically, but in that Bible, and in the words of the Savior he claimed to follow, this.....
Proverbs 5:18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Mark 10:14 But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.
David Livingston was UNDER ORDERS FROM GOD, to follow another plan other than he chose. His wife's breasts where in England where he in no imaginable way could be ravished by them. Nor could he suffer his children to come to Jesus from the plains of central Africa. So, his piety was a lot of rubbish to cover up his arrogant disobedience to the Christ whom he claimed to serve. Was he even born again? I have to wonder, for that Christ he claimed to serve also sent the Holy Spirit to lead him into all truth.
David Livingston was totally AWOL in regard to his kids. They had no Daddy, period, full stop. READ MORE HERE to see the real character of Livingston and how his wife died an alcoholic. She too abandoned their children to go to Africa and rescue Livingston, where she died. Their children became orphans..... "to the glory of God"? Blasphemy!
There is only legendary evidence that David Livingston ever won any souls to Christ, only one. I wonder how many of you missionaries reading here have ever won even one soul to Christ. I had a missionary kid friend who returned to the mission field as a missionary, and he one day admitted dejectedly that he had no idea how to give the Gospel to a person. He was responsible for a large area of the work in that mission.
So, even in speaking of my own parents, whom I think did as well as anyone could under the circumstances, all missionaries who sent their kids away from home to boarding school put those kids under the wrong tutors. Some of the tutors and staff who directed missionaries' kids in boarding schools were godly and did the best they could. But, even at best they had far too many kids per staff person to really BE a parent to any one kid.
Furthermore; most of this school staff were over worked and had at least one too many jobs. Many staff were side lined from the work they went to the mission field to do, and they were grumpy in their souls because the mission persuaded them, often with proverbial threatenings and psychological tricks, to do what they felt unqualified to do just to be a place holder.
Finally, some of the staff were virtually agents provocateur for Satan himself. They were immoral, full of rage, cruel, teaching heresy, and generally demented. These were few, but it only takes one morally and/or spiritually perverted adult to send a kid into hate for the Christian truth AND for his parents. They learn to hate their Dad for putting them under the authority of an adult who is wicked. I watched as way too many of my school mates left Rift Valley Academy and become atheists and quite heathen. I do not believe for one minute that there would have been as many of these loses if these kids had been kept at home, home schooled, and had been made a part of Daddy and Mommy's ministry to the African Church.
There is another very evil aspect to life in a missionary kids boarding school. These schools always take in kids from missions other than the one who built and managed the school. So, in order to avoid conflict, there are doctrines which never are taught in Bible class, and they are avoided in chapel sessions. To hell with "the whole council of God." There are kids from Pentecostal and Assembly of God missions, so the security of the believer is not taught because these kids have been taught how to get unsaved and saved again over and over. There is no eschatology because there are pre-trib, mid-trib, post-trib, millennial, and a-millennial kids there from all sorts of denominations. There are Baptists who believe in immersion, and Anglicans who dribble a bit. This was a very grievous offense in Rift Valley Academy while I was there. So, these kids have to get their doctrine during one third of their life when home on vacation. This is great violence to the commends of Scripture:
Proverbs 4:2 For I give you good doctrine, forsake ye not my law.
Mark 1:22 And they were astonished at his (Jesus') doctrine: for he taught them as one that had authority, and not as the scribes.
Acts 2:42 And they continued stedfastly in the apostles' doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking of bread, and in prayers.
1 Timothy 4:13 Till I come, give attendance to reading, to exhortation, to doctrine.
2 Timothy 3:16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
Titus 2:1 But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:
So, to agree to avoid doctrine is blasphemy. It says that doctrine is not important. We kids who knew what we believed would argue doctrine in the dorms sometimes. But, I recall times when one kid would overwhelm another kid, and the victim might change his doctrinal position to win the favor of the persuasive kid. I recall that when I heard this, even when I agreed with the more persuasive kid, I would feel uncomfortable. I knew something was not right about this because the victim had a Daddy that had taught him otherwise.
Sir, the place to teach a kid doctrine is at your dinner table and during family Bible reading. If you preach and teach doctrine, your kid needs to hear that also-- FROM YOU. Do not bellyache if your kid turns into what you consider a heretic. YOU sent the kid away to learn doctrine in a dorm room, or worse, to never be taught doctrine at all.
When I was a Biola University long ago they offered various denominational history classes. Being a member of a Mennonite church, I decided to take Mennonite Church History. I was the only one in the class that semester, but the professor insisted that we do the class and make it a tutored class "by appointment." We met in the cafeteria, he assigned reading, we discussed what I was learning, and I loved the class. I had him all to myself. During that semester I came to really respect the heritage I had in the Anabaptists. So, why couldn't missionary boarding school do that with doctrine? Too much trouble, right? Too much trouble to obey the Word of God as you read it above.
Blast your dead zeal.
So, when we boarded the lake steamer to go back to school after a vacation, many of us had the sense deep down inside that something just was not right that we had to leave our Dads and Moms. The principal at RVA, who was a moldy Calvinist, regularly told us that we were there so that our parents could do more work for the Lord. That was blasphemy. There is no such teaching in the Bible, that is, that a child is most useful when he is out of the house-- God gets more good work from his parents that way. The principal also would use this as a weapon in discipline. He would shame us because, if we got naughty enough, he said, he would have to tell our parents about it, and they would be distracted from serving the Lord effectively by having to give unnecessary attention to us.
The principal once threatened to take me into Nairobi and enroll me in the Prince of Wales boarding school for British government officials' kids. That was the day I realized the man had a cruel and twisted mind. He was trying to attack me through terror using authority which he had no power to use. I knew that one phone call to my Dad, and my Dad would raise hell in the whole mission over such a cavalier move against his authority as my father. From that day onward, I avoided the principal like the plague, and I considered him demented and mentally unstable. He had no ability to lead young people. That, my friend, is a hard way to grow up and learn to deal with humanity, especially when they claim to be like Jesus. And, I started realizing why my Mom cried and hurt so much when she waved us off on the lake steamer. She knew it was all wrong.
We all stood on the lake steamer deck waving good-bye over the railing to Dad and Mom. The little kids cried, and the big kids bit their lip and put an arm around the shoulders of the little kids. We were, in some sovereign Calvinist perversion of truth, going away so that God could get on with saving the world. Only the kids who finally worked this out and called it what is was could finally deal with life and end up loving their parents. I knew kids at RVA who virtually hated their parents for pushing them away from themselves in the name of God. My brother did not fare so well either. He ended his life with AIDS which he acquired in the Castro District of San Francisco. Little Timmy needed Daddy and Mommy even more than I did, and they were not there.
My brother Timmy was caught, in first grade, with another little girl in the first missionary kids' school he went to. He was exploring his sexuality, at age seven, with the director's daughter. The director caught them, and he raged with hate for Timmy and prophesied that Timmy was a demonic sex pervert and would be that way all the rest of his life. Timmy believed him, and Timmy never again was curious about sexuality with the opposite sex. Later, after he went on to Rift Valley Academy, the staff member in charge of his dorm was over worked in the extreme, and he had no idea that Timmy's dorm had become a virtual suburb of Sodom. I was told years later that virtually every boy in that dorm of fifth and sixth boys was experimenting with sodomy. I fear that Timmy is not the only one who went down that road to Sodom later in life.
Suffer the little children to come unto whom? My brother went to Sodom. And, when he finally told me the story, for I had no idea, the day the college expelled him for sodomy, I bawled like a baby. I even considered finding a whore in Mexico and asking her to help Timmy learn natural sex. I had no idea how to help a sodomite, and my brother was one.
Timmy..... no Dad to see him through that time of life. My Dad hated sodomy, and he would have made sure no wand waver got near Timmy if he had been at home. And, everyone in charge at the school was either too busy, or they may have actually cultivated that horror. Who knows? I have been young and am old, and I now realize that either you are going one way, or you are going the opposite. Some of those missionary staff may well have been sex perverts. I know one that was-- I caught him hustling another man's wife. Watching a missionary patriarch, one who lead the hymn singing at large gatherings, try to "put the make" on a rather well endowed missionary lady was a revelation to me. I also knew of one staff member who was known as a peeping Tom in both the girls' and boys' dorms.
So, all of the stories about life at Rift Valley Academy which I tell in this Yarns section of this journal are simply about how we kids survived, or did not survive so well, in spite of being abandoned for one third of our childhood. Much of our adventuresome spirit was fueled by a lust to escape from grown up brats and mental cases who had been forced into their positions at RVA. All too often, it was because they were so badly miss fitted for any other work, so the mission dumped them on top of us kids.
I speak of these things, not out of a bitter heart, but out of knowledge that was gained the hard way. Those who follow after us need to face the choices they make, especially missionary parents. I have been blunt and have told you things you did not like to read. Deal with it. The blood of your kids is not on my hands.
ADMONITION TO MISSIONARY KIDS IN BOARDING SCHOOLS
If you are a student at Rift Valley Academy or any other MK's boarding school, you need to go to your Lord Jesus Christ, and you must ask him to cleanse you of any bitterness you have toward your parents. Your parents very likely believed the line of bologna of the mission that they must get you out of the house in order to be more useful to the mission and to the Lord. That is a lie. Do not let yourself turn in hate on anyone, but do not believe the lies either. No one has a right to make you believe lies, not even your parents.
On your next vacation, get your Dad alone, and tell him you have learned that the Bible does not condone his choices to send you away from home. Talk to your Dad honestly, and ask him if he really believes Jesus likes what he chose to do. If your Dad tells you that God lead him to run you out of the house so he could win more souls, YOUR DAD IS A LIAR. Your Dad is in rebellion against the Word of God. You must honor him as your Dad, but your final authority from now on must be the Lord Jesus and God's Word. Other than in this issues, where ever your Dad's law and teachings line up with the Word of God, NEVER turn against his teachings.
When you go home on vacation you should always have questions to ask your Dad about issues where you have been taught something you believe does violence to the Word of God. You only have three months a year to keep up with your Dad's teachings for you. Don't let this slip away. If there are students who are living in sexual perversion or other evil life styles, or if there are staff who use filthy language or have made evil advances sexually to you OR to your friends in the school, do not tell the staff. They will cover it up. Tell you Dad at once by email or by phone, and later ask your Dad what he did about it. Again, this does not have to only be situations where you are personally involved. If you see ANY evil, especially in sexual issues, BY ANYONE, you may be the only one who cares of knows. Act now.
If you have a Dad who does nothing about such things, you now have a problem. You MUST NOT accept evil in this way. Go to a patriarch of the mission on the station where you are, a man in whom you see the character of Jesus Christ, and tell him with witnesses present. If he does nothing, raise hell in the whole school about it. Blow it wide open in a big rush so that someone, just one, godly person will take your side. If that fails, call the police, and report the thing. Also, send email to the pastor of your home church in the USA or your home country, and tell him about the thing. Tell him no one, including your Dad, will respond to you. It must be stopped. Do not give the leaders of the school and the mission time to either cover it up or turn on you and blame you in some way. Before acting openly, determine a home of refuge where you could flee to if you are attacked for speaking out. Hopefully, this will never be needed, but do have this option in place.
I am very sorry if you find yourself in this exact situation my friend. You should not have to deal with this at your age, but it may be that God has simply chosen you to learn spiritual warfare at a younger age than the rest of us did. Please feel free to send me email at this address:
I will respond to the situation in the best way I can before the Lord, and I will do everything possible to protect you from evil men in mission leadership. I have ways of getting things moving though.
Most importantly, there will be cool teachers and staff in the school whom you know very well do NOT have the same standards as your Dad and Mom. Some will teach doctrines that clearly violate your parent's Bible teaching. Do not let that sort of staff member warp your character by turning you against the teaching of your father. Consider those teachers to be heretics. They may very well get a rush out of twisting the minds of kids, and they may be demon possessed. If you are not sure if there is a problem, get on your cell phone if you have one, or ask to use a phone and call home. Do not wait until vacation-- do not fear rocking the boat. Ask your Dad to tell you what the Bible teaches on anything you see or hear that in any way seems to violate your parents' standards. This is how you can keep yourself faithful to the teachings of your parents, as the Bible verses above commanded.
The same goes for anything you find in the textbooks the school requires you to study. Is there is a violation of the things you believe, as your Dad taught them to you? When you take a test, give the answers required to pass the test, and then draw a line at the bottom, and write something like, "This is heresy, and I hate it, and my Dad will be hearing about this soon." There will be a panic party in the next staff meeting, and THAT IS JUST FINE. Stand your ground for the things you father has taught you in Christ. Again, if your Dad will not defend you either, send email to me, and I will try to help you weather the thing with victory in Jesus Christ. Send mail to: email@example.com
PAY ATTENTION PLEASE-- NO ADULT, NO MATTER HOW COOL, OR HOW HIGH AND MIGHTY, HAS ANY RIGHT TO DESTROY YOUR FAITH IN YOUR FATHER AND YOUR LORD. STAND YOU GROUND. KNOW WHAT YOU BELIEVE, AND THE DEVIL TAKE THE HINDMOST. AND, IF THEY KEEP PUSHING OR WHINING, BLAST THEM WITH YOUR ZEAL FOR THE WORD, YOUR DAD, AND YOUR DOCTRINE. DEMAND AN APOLOGY. IF IT GETS EXTREMELY BAD, DEMAND AN AUDIENCE WITH THE MISSION SCHOOL BOARD IN CHARGE OF YOUR SCHOOL.
If any of these actions cause you to panic, and if the panic never gives way to a feeling that God wants you to act, do not go forward with my suggestions. Either talk to an aged missionary if you know one you trust, or send me email: firstname.lastname@example.org
YOUR BROTHER OR SISTER AND OTHER YOUNGER KIDS
Since you have a brother or sister in the same school as you, and because your parents have run them out the door just as they did with you, YOU are God's choice to protect and encourage them. How you relate to your younger brother or sister may determine your relationship for the rest of your life. If your school has a caste system, that is, separation socially between ages, that is wicked, and it is no excuse for you to neglect your brother or sister.
Watch for several abuse factors. Both sexual and physical abuse must be included here, as well as mental and spiritual abuse. Some adult perverts get a rush out of beating children and actually have an orgasm while beating them. You need to be aware that the worst can be worse than you ever imagined. Ask the child you are concerned for how they feel about life and how they like various staff members who are in charge of them. Be aware that the child may actually be naughty and want to blame someone else rather then behave themselves. But, again, be aware that abusers almost always claim the child is just being naughty and lying. If they are beating them mercilessly, they will claim they simply cannot control the child without physical discipline. If you really believe they are being naughty, admonish them and pray with them and FOR them, so that they learn to alter their movement forward in life and in Christ. But, watch for symptoms of abuse such as:
1. Unexplained injuries.
Visible signs of physical abuse may include unexplained burns or bruises in the shape of objects. Sexual abuse may result in pain in pubic areas. "I hurt in my potty place." You may also hear unconvincing explanations of a child’s injuries. The child may have been told by the abuser that God caused their pain because they resist the sexual abuse. They will threaten them that if they tell anyone, worse things will happen to them. This will cause them to be tight lipped about some staff member, some missionary who is involved with the school, or some older student.
2. Changes in behavior.
Abuse can lead to many changes in a child’s behavior. Abused children often appear scared, anxious, depressed, withdrawn or more aggressive. They may start talking to a fantasy friend, telling them their troubles. Try to eaves drop on them when this is happening without them knowing it. Once you know this "friend" exists in the child's imagination, ask them to tell you more about the imaginary friend. The story may well be the child's personal story told in only slightly concealed, but graphic, words.
3. Returning to earlier behaviors.
Abused children may return to behaviors normally shown at earlier ages, such as thumb-sucking, bed-wetting, fear of the dark or strangers. For some children, even loss of acquired language or memory problems may be an issue. Their learning skills may collapse. Talk to their teacher if your brother or sister loves the teacher and likes to talk about them, especially if they say the teacher is not like some other staff member. This teacher may be the only friend you have in learning if something it wrong.
4. Fear of going home.
Abused children may express apprehension or anxiety about leaving school or about going places with the person who is abusing them. They may dread going home to their parents on vacation because Mommy or Daddy may ask questions, and they feel dirty and do not want Daddy to know about the filthy things being done to them. This feeling of being dirty is A VERY BAD SIGN, and you must get to the bottom of it.
5. Changes in eating.
The stress, fear and anxiety caused by abuse can lead to changes in a child’s eating behaviors, which may result in weight gain or weight loss. They may have issues vomiting after they eat, or at other times, which are not accompanied by other symptoms of real illness.
6. Changes in sleeping.
Abused children may have frequent nightmares or have difficulty falling asleep, and as a result may appear tired or fatigued. You may also want to ask the child's friend who sleeps in their room what they talk about if they have nightmares.
7. Changes in school performance
Abused children may have difficulty concentrating in school or have excessive absences, sometimes due to adults trying to hide the children’s injuries from authorities. Again, if the teacher is the best friend to your brother of sister, talk to the teacher. Ask the teacher how she thinks the problem started. If the teacher has no idea, that is a bad sign.
8. Lack of personal care or hygiene-- OR obsessive self-cleansing
Abused and neglected children may appear uncared for. They may seem to be consistently dirty and have severe body odor, or they may lack sufficient clothing for the occasion. They may have to be forced to clean themselves up. They may even stop worrying about bathroom cleansing habits. But, there is the opposite red flag. One of the most frightening symptoms to watch for is to see a child obsessed with washing their hands and their dollies. If they wash their dolly, watch to see if they wash the private area of the dolly incessantly. This should send you to URGENTLY write email home or phone Dad at once, especially if it was not their behavior in the past. If it is another kid who is not in your family, you must go at once to some school leader you trust, and tell them what you are seeing. If they refuse to take action, read the instructions below as to ways to force action out of wimpy leaders. Also, consider calling the child's parents.
9. Risk-taking behaviors.
Young people who are being abused may engage in high-risk activities such as using drugs or alcohol or carrying a weapon. This is with older brothers or sisters, or for you friends your age. The reason may well be because devils are involved, and the person is under control of both the abuser and the devil behind the abuser. Younger children may jump from high places or run madly into brushy areas and get hurt.
10. Inappropriate sexual behaviors.
Children who have been sexually abused may exhibit overly sexualized behavior or use explicit sexual language. If a young brother or sister, say age 7 or 8, starts trying to masturbate constantly, even when people may see him or her, something is very wrong. This is a serious red flag. If an older kid is into masturbating, mind your own business. We are concerned with kids who should not be able to perform this way, or who had to have someone instruct them. Never tell a little kid they are dirty if they are masturbating or playing with themselves. Something else is wrong.
Prepare for a shock. The abuser may be some student of staff member of whom you have the highest regard. They may seem spiritual to you, and they may be able to preach and "win souls." If you get the signals of abuse, especially more than one, your brother or sister comes first, not the staff member you think is godly. Almost all abusers in churches and schools like yours maintain an image of being very spiritual. That is how they fend off the ugly questions from people who see the signals of abuse and might ask questions.
One more thought-- If there is a young kid in your school who has no big brother or sister, this kid will be targeted much more likely than those who have a family member in the school who might be looking after them. You are now responsible before God to keep your eyes open, and God may want you to take up the cause for some little kid who is being raped, sodomized, or beaten beyond reason regularly by another student or a staff member, and there is no one to defend them.
To you staff members, and to school principals, reading here, you can do one of two things with the above counsel:
1. Tell all the students I am a wicked man doing a great disservice to the work of the Lord, especially if you know you already have a problem in your school, or YOU are a pedophile yourself.
2. Take this page to the next staff meeting, hand out copies to all the staff, and see how they respond. I have done you a favor. Any staff member who thinks this is wicked stuff-- you better keep an eye on them Mister. You have my permission to reprint this if you do not change the editorial or use any other Bible version than the KJV. If you have issues, add your own observations at the end please so that the reader has my thoughts intact.
This is an ugly issue, and it does come up in boarding schools around the world. In my day, during the ancient past of mission, drugs were not known in our school. The worst thing we did was smoke tea leaves and make home brew. You may still find a couple of home made cigars in the attic of the Kiambogo building at RVA made by one naughty boy. But, things have changed. You may very well know that some kids are doing drugs in your school. All of the suggestions made here apply, but be aware of one more caution. Drug users, more than other offenders, are viciously desperate to protect and maintain their habit. If you mess with their monkey, they may physically attack you. Also, if a staff member is involved, you will receive a large dose of adult stealth and evil actions toward you.
This may be more than you are ready for. So, talk to your Dad, and if he is too frightened to deal with it, leave it alone and avoid those involved. You are in a suburb of hell, and God does not want you to become a narcotics cop. If drugs are an issue, and if you and your Dad cannot deal with it, ask your Dad to let you come home and study there.
Now, on the other hand, if you are a senior, and if you like the idea of law enforcement as a career, you might as well get started early. But, make sure someone is covering your back..... someone NOT in the drug scene, and make sure that second person is very stable and can keep quiet about this. If you need a witness to conversations with authority, take another adult or student who is willing. Never include your friend in any discussions with those in authority so that he can remain anonymous and eaves drop on conversations and inform you. Remember, with the drugs thing, money is involved, and virtually any adult in OR AROUND your school could be the pusher. Yes, you read that, your principal could be the pusher. Some mission leader could be the pusher, or his brat kid. Also, a national Christian could be the pusher. If there are national's kids in your school, drugs may be provided by a powerful local politician.
Ephesians 5:15 See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,
Again, as in other issues discussed here, have a "city of refuge" where you can run to for protection. That might be some missionary you are absolutely convinced is God fearing, and who lives way above the life style of the mongrel slobs in the mission who should not even be "on the field." A missionary from another mission might even be better.
Send mail if you get in over your head or are unsure of yourself: email@example.com
Remember, if you send email, any govrnment agancy in the world could be snooping, and your school may even have a way to snoop. If you are fearful of this potential, send snail mail to:
Steve Van Nattan
1955 County Road 202
Liberty Hill, Texas 78642
Be sure to tell me if you want to remain anonymous or if you are willing to talk to any contact I find whom I believe is not corrupt and will not do you harm. I will try to help without involving you. Be sure to tell me the name of the school where you are and the mission which manages that school. My job will be to inform someone in high places well above your local situation and try to convince them to look into the problem you talk about. This offer is open to both students and staff in missionary kids' boarding schools anywhere in the world. Parents, do not write and expect me to defend your kids if you will not do so. If you need counsel about home schooling, or if your child is recovering from abuse, do write please. Ex-missionaies' kids-- let me hear from you in email please.
Pastors of supporting churches-- do write with questions. You could be the most important person to mediate some of the issues I have addressed above. And, pastors, would you be willing to help with the home schooling of your missionaries' kids? Would you be willing to go to the field and help your missionary and his kids clean themselves up after one of these horrors? Or, will you sweep it under the carpet Jack Hyles style?
A word of caution:
In dealing with sexual, mental, and physical abuse of children you need to be very sure you see clear evidence of abuse. A false accusation could destroy an innocent person. Having said that. I can almost promise that you will also be told by staff and other missionaries that you are destroying the life of an innocent person. These people are trying to cover up an evil situation so that the mission and school will not receive bad publicity. Once you are sure you have real evidence of abuse, never look back. A child is being attacked by wicked people, and you may be the only one with the zeal to do the right thing for that child. Those who defend a child abuser are just as wicked as the abuser.
SURVIVAL OPTIONS FOR MISSIONARIES' KIDS
Now, here is the personal part from me to you. Let's assume you are in grade 7 or above. Kids below these grades should not try to apply the following admonition unless you are with your older brother. I am talking to some kid who is angry about being sent away from home. I am also talking to some kid who is watching other kids, AND SOME STAFF MEMBERS, behave like godless creeps, violators of God's holiness.
Find ways to distract yourself.
1. DO NOT become self-righteous. Find ways to avoid the people who offend you, but do not start gossiping and form some sort of clique of brats who turn in rage on these students or staff who offend God's righteousness. That is not your calling, that is, other than the admonition above regarding sexual and physical offenses or doctrinal heresy. Romans 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
2. Put a high priority on doing your best in your classes. Dive into extra reading. Find books about adventure and exploration and African (or whatever nation you are in) old days to read and learn about the history around you. When there is an event or activity involving godly staff and decent students, volunteer, even if it seems boring at first. 1 Thessalonians 4:11 And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;
3. As much as is safe, and this is mostly for the boys, explore that part of Africa, or your nation where you live, just beyond your school boundaries. Do not break rules about where you are supposed to be, but if there is no rule for some venture that presents itself, do not ask permission either. Make sure this adventure is for the purpose of keeping away from the trouble zone and escape from people who are an aggravation. Proverbs 26:17 He that passeth by, and meddleth with strife belonging not to him, is like one that taketh a dog by the ears.
4. Get to know the Africans, or national Christians, on the mission station, and if you are a guy in tenth through twelfth grade, make friends of God fearing African, or national Christian, men in the area. You may even find help from them about life's questions. Make a friend among the African pastor's kids, girl with a girl, and boy with a boy. Go to the local shops of Africans, or nationals where ever you live in the world, and make regular visits. Do favors for African or national Christians, not so much in the form of gifts as in helping clean up or fix something. Volunteer to help clean the local national church. These things will get you away from the crazies, but they will not be able to say you are doing evil.
5. If you can, take a class in the local or trade language so that you can give the Gospel to Africans you meet in your wanderings and while traveling back and forth to home. BE a missionary if God makes a way for that, and do not consult with the staff on this. Many of them are not soul winners anyway, and they do not have a clue. 2 Timothy 4:2 Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. 1 Peter 3:15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:
6. Volunteer to work at the printing press, the hospital or the radio department..... anywhere in the mission work where you can help.
7. Make a time every day when you read your Bible and pray for the issues you deal with. Ask the Lord to show you where you can make a difference rather than being part of the problem. You might also want to include a like minded friend in this time with the Lord.
8. Do not think that a love affair will be a good distraction. These love affairs in missionary boarding schools are shallow, and the tensions created will only bring you more issues from the staff. You want to NOT become a topic of discussion in staff meetings. Read that last sentence again please.
Ephesians 5:8 For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:
1 Thessalonians 5:5 Ye are all the children of light, and the children of the day: we are not of the night, nor of darkness.
6 Therefore let us not sleep, as do others; but let us watch and be sober.
7 For they that sleep sleep in the night; and they that be drunken are drunken in the night.
8 But let us, who are of the day, be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love; and for an helmet, the hope of salvation.
9 For God hath not appointed us to wrath, but to obtain salvation by our Lord Jesus Christ,
10 Who died for us, that, whether we wake or sleep, we should live together with him.
There are missionary boarding schools all around the world. They are all based on the same lie that kids need to be run out of the house on the mission field. This is not just one school in Africa. And, parents in America or Europe who claim to be born again and want to obey God's Word-- you have NO business sending your kids off to a Christian boarding school. I know from talking to Christian educators that Christian boarding schools in America and Europe are ridden with vile perverts, and often the very directors of these schools are sex perverts and pedophiles. Home school your kids. If your alleged life style will not let you home school, YOU CHANGE, you rebel, do not ask your kid to get out of the house so Mommy can have her "Christian" career.
Yes, it was very morbid on the school bound trip on Lake Victoria. Many of those parents did not have any idea how their kids hurt. And, it is a good thing some of those kids never learned how glad their parents were to get rid of them. Those kids were taught to be ashamed of being home sick, by enough demented demon possessed staff, that the kids believed it. Other staff spent long hours crying with those little homesick kids. It was just plain nasty and miserable. As I grew older in those days I wanted to hug some little kid and try to lift the hurt, but I knew he would ask, "Why can't I be with my Mommy?" I knew I had no answer, and I refused to tell him the standard heresy, "Jesus needs your Mommy more than you do."
You may hold up many examples of missionaries' kids who did well and seemed to be fine examples of Christian servants. The whole issue is NOT about the kids who went on in life and did well. The issue is about the command of God to parents to raise their kids in the home. Daniel and his Hebrew friends certainly persevered well in Babylon without their parents. Well, you missed something important if you use that convoluted exegesis.
DANIEL'S PARENTS DID NOT SEND HIM TO BABYLON SO THEY COULD DO MORE WORK FOR GOD. Daniel and the Hebrew children were captured and taken to Babylon against their parents' will.
I am sorry for such a miserable ending, but I feel strongly about this, and anyone caught in this problem needs to get his priorities sorted out before he has a sodomite or a raging atheist for an heir.
There will be missionary leaders who may read here, and they will have some pious words-- they HAVE to justify themselves..... like:
"He is bitter"
FACT: I am not bitter for myself. I survived on one third of what I needed from my Dad. My brother did not, and he died cursing God and sitting on several gay AIDS health support groups. And, that began in the titchie boys dorm at Rift Valley Academy. Far from being bitter, I am determined to FORCE you missionaries and you pious mission boards to face the reality that you arrogantly define God's standard for the home OUT of you plans. You love and make and believe a lie. All that seems to be needed to make slaves of all missionary parents is for some alleged "Great Missionary Statesman" to stand before them and tell them that the Word of God does not work with mission work as it applies to the family. Of course, you high papal muckity mucks do this in grand style, citing the glorious patriarchs of the past in missions as the "sacrificial" examples. They left their wife and kids in the UK and went and wandered around Africa or India for ten years at a pop. Is the story moving? Most certainly-- that is the stock in trade of mission board gurus-- it moves the masses and justifies the asses. Is the blather and bluster biblical? Absolutely not. And, for the record, there were patriarch missionaries and early explorers who took their wives, had families, and did not abandon their kids. Better a kid dies of black water fever in his Daddy's arms in the Congo than to die spiritually and morally in a school far away where no one cares for him like his Daddy.
"This plan of his would be fine if it would work in our situation."
FACT: Your blasted "situation" is that you have perverted the Bible texts above. Obedience is not conditional. No man, and no mission board, has the authority to redesign the canon of Scripture to make their model of "the ministry" work. It is either Bible based, or it is damned to hell as a mongrel invention of perverted minds.
"But, God has really blessed this school with better staff and beautiful facilities."
FACT there is no facility, staff, nor curriculum better than a God centered home where a God centered Daddy presides and lives a God centered life in front of his kids. The best facility to learn truth is a dining room table. Is it possible that you, Daddy, want to live a vile life which you do not want your kids to see, so you piously send them off to be tutored by others who actually have higher standards than you? I have seen this myself on the mission field. Sloppy agape, mister.
"Well, our school is not that way."
FACT Jeremiah 9:5 And they will deceive every one his neighbour, and will not speak the truth: they have taught their tongue to speak lies, and weary themselves to commit iniquity.
Self-deluded people are well tutored by their directors, and in some cases by statistics, so that they believe they have produced an environment just as sound as the Bible based home. Indeed, I have heard missionary boarding school staff and the kids claim that they had a better home life at school than at home. This simply tells us that some homes of missionaries are degraded by sin and lazy parents. These sorts of missionaries also produce wicked and deformed local churches. They should be sent back where they came from at once. This argument in NO WAY justifies defying the Word of God as to missionary parents and their kids.
From the tales above, and in other yarns in this section, you must admit that I found ways to distract myself and survive, yea, may I even dare to say, thrive. But, again, the righteous Word of God rules in all questions. The fact that I survived does not cancel out God's order for the family. If that bothers you, we have a saying in Texas..... DEAL WITH IT.
One last word to mission leaders and school staff regarding your missionary kids' school--
You who live godly and orderly in regard to these thoughts, as I have presented them, you need not tell me what you think. Keep right on doing your job as God gives you wisdom.
You who become enraged because I have blown your cover, or because I empowered those kids to defend themselves and one another, I will do anything legally possible to destroy you. Beware of opening battle with me. I may be old and a bit slower than you, but my God is enraged at you, and that makes two of us.
The battle is set in array.
Come on, make our day.
1 Timothy 1:18 This charge I commit unto thee, son Timothy, according to the prophecies which went before on thee, that thou by them mightest war a good warfare;
19 Holding faith, and a good conscience; which some having put away concerning faith have made shipwreck:
1 Peter 5:8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
Psalms 38:19 But mine enemies are lively, and they are strong: and they that hate me wrongfully are multiplied.
20 They also that render evil for good are mine adversaries; because I follow the thing that good is.
21 Forsake me not, O LORD: O my God, be not far from me.
22 Make haste to help me, O Lord my salvation.
VIDEOS ON THIS TOPIC
I think I have been rather restrained compared with the following videos. I had no idea these videos existed until I had written the above analysis of this issue, and blast any of you slobs who claim I am lying. I watched the videos, and I cried again. A lot of these people had it far worse than I did. But, if you watch the videos you will understand why my brother Timmy was a horrible victim of a perverted system. And, remember, Timmy is in hell right now. There is hell to pay..... the price is high.
AFTER THOUGHT IN VIEW OF THE VIDEOS
For the record, almost all of the things you saw in the videos were either my experience at Rift Valley Academy, or they were the experience of my school mates. In fact, as I watched the videos, I had horrible flash backs. And it hurt, again, not so much for me as for some of the weaker kids who were mentally and socially mutilated and tortured by either demented staff or by other students. I refuse to believe that there is a missionary boarding school anywhere in the world that does not have problems like you just watched. When a mission or boarding school staff member claims they never have any of these problems, it is like a zoo keeper saying, "I know a zoo cage is not like the natural habitat of the animals, but these animals are really quite normal." A boarding school is NOT any sort of substitute for a Bible based Christian home. The worst of the video series was that I heard, as it were, the voice of my brother Timmy in one of the victims. I know when I am hearing a sodomite talk.
There will be an appeal to degree, that is, "Al right, we have some of this now and again, but our school has never been THAT bad." I believe you. So what? Any of these offenses should not exist, and any mission or school official must be onto this all the time. When the mission sweeps it under the rug by sending the missionary home, they are perpetuating the problem by hiding their sins. Only open attack on the wickedness, and talking about it to the home church of the culprit, talking to missionaries, AND THE KIDS, will stop it. Those kids need to know that the school leaders and staff are on their side so that any freak that slips through the screening process IS THE ENEMY OF EVERYONE FROM GOD HIMSELF TO THE KIDS.
Finally, offenders need to be prosecuted. The next grievous offense or abuse needs to be handed to the national local police instead of sending the beast back to the USA or the UK. One prosecution locally, and one of these creeps rotting in a Third World prison, would work wonders for the moral and ethical climate in your school. The natural brute beasts would get the message before they ever applied to your mission.
One of the most deadly things about a missionary boarding school was not well presented in the videos. Because the students are very caste oriented as to grade levels, and because the staff regularly boast of the academic standards of the school, and because the principal boasts often about how a high percentage of graduates go on to college, another caste status divide develops. The whole atmosphere is structured around the losers and the winners, or morally, around the "rotters" and the "goody goodies." This then stays with the student for his whole time at the school. There seems to be a NEED for failures so the staff and high performers can form an adult-student caste and measure the top against the bottom. The rotters often then accept their status. Many staff come to anticipate the kid will stay a rotter and even foster the divide by giving favors to the top performers, and the rotter sets forth to master being a rotter. This often ends in expulsion or vicious discipline verbally and in other ways.
At RVA we had one fellow who was caught with a girl under the porch necking. He was expelled, and he went home and finished high school at home. The staff would tell us from time to time that this fellow was doomed to be an abject failure. Nothing good could possibly come of him. So much for the grace of God and forgiveness of sin. Calvin strikes again. To hell with the damned violator. Well, it ain't necessarily so. He went on to finish Bible college and worked as a missionary with a very highly respected mission to children world wide. I imagine there were staff in retirement who followed his career closely hoping to be vindicated in their dire prophecies. Nothing would have pleased them more than to hear that fellow had fallen into sin.
This was upper and lower spiritual caste system was my experience, and only after a furlough in the USA in tenth grade, and getting a good look at the real world and REAL rotters, did I realize I was a new creature in Christ Jesus after all. What the staff and other kids thought of me became small dust in the balance. My last two years in RVA were much better because I simply walked away from the spiritual snobs up top and found ways to enjoy life without assuming I was a master rotter. Not many kids would remember me well from those last two years because I walked alone with the Lord in many ways. I found most of the staff absurd, and I became convinced some of them were damned to hell rebels against the Grace of God. I began to hear them teaching heresy. As I became a bit more conscious of my own faults, and what a holy life might be like, I also saw some filthy moral behavior in some of the staff. It is all too common in missions and in local church life for sex perverts in leadership, and in the pulpits, to put on airs of piety as insulation to hide behind. Any kids who were not blessed with God's help to start separating the sheep from the goats in the adult world around us usually became Atheists and godless in later years.
I also must say that a few of the staff at RVA began to shine in their zeal to love the failure prone kids and give them a second, third, and many more chances to pick it up and get going after they had failed. The staff who virtually NEEDED me to be their bad boy soon lost their favorite bad boy, and they had to find a new example of disaster. God is good, and I thank him for those few really godly staff who WANTED me to prosper in Jesus Christ.
A rational Christian father would never allow his son or daughter to fall into such a state and just let his kid stay that way all the kids life. He would hug and discipline in such a way that the kid turned the corner sooner or later. But, that can ONLY be done if the kid is at home all the time, not at a missionary boarding school. The rotters are left behind as a lost cause. There are a very few staff who see this and fight it, but the whole missionary endeavor is based on the performers and the non-performers. The history of missions is replete with sinister tales of alleged losers, told to new missionaries in indoctrination sessions. Of those who failed it is said, "and they are not with us today." I suspect this is also fed by a warped view of the sovereignty of God. "God, you see, consults us when he decides who is a loser and who is a winner."
I recall only two staff couples who helped me as I walked away from my rotter career. One was a former missionary kid returned with her husband as staff members and as a teachers, and the other was an Episcopalian couple who were very liberal theologically. I remained on the narrow way in spite of an assist from liberals, and I still walk there. But I find it curious that God used a theologically liberal couple to help me escape that horrid caste system. I also must mention a dorm parent, a single man, who would discipline me by giving me a choice of being sent to the principal, who would be vicious and probably do me physical harm, or I could take the dorm parent's punishment and escape wrath. The assigned work was usually hard labor, but at least I was sheltered from the wrath of a beast. In later years I figured out that the man did not like the vicious rage of the principal, but he would not say so out loud. I give that dorm parent high marks in the self-control and in the merciful department. He also seemed determined that I always have a chance to start over from square one and see if I could do better next time. Why are such people so hard to find?
Well, enough of this true confessions stuff. Here is a parting verse-- do you believe it?
Mark 9:42 And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.
Daddy, are you an offender?
To date, and to my knowledge, the Africa Inland Mission (AIM) has never sought to learn, and deal with, abuse at Rift Valley Academy. Any such action has obviously been kept "in house" so that the mission would not suffer adverse publicity. I know that is policy because I saw it myself long ago many times. Also, because they have no interest in past abuse, it is really too late to deal with my era. Many of them are gone by now. There will be those who will claim that this never comes up when RVA alumni have gatherings. This is supposed to imply that all was well after all. I would answer, where are those people who left RVA, and that is the last anyone heard from them? They do not respond to other alumni who invite them to reunions or to join them on social media. Why are they so thoroughly gone and so recluse and silent when approached? I used to be on social media, and I got involved with old student friends. But, I had to drop several because they were either filthy slobs, Atheists, or they were so angry at life that they felt like poison. Tell me again please, how it was so helpful for those kids to be away from their parents two thirds of the year. Hello, I cannot hear you.
In all fairness, I must say that the school in the video series above was very extreme. While I recognized all of the principles of abuse as being in my experience at Rift Valley Academy, the extreme degree of abuse was not at RVA. Or, was it, and it was simply well hidden? You see, the victims of sexual abuse almost always internalize the abuse and blame themselves. They feel dirty, they go silent, and they sublimate that abuse into the Christian doctrines they have been taught. The doctrine is Truth, but the way they are helped to apply that truth is perverted so that they will never talk. And, they may even become God haters when they finally escape the zoo.
I especially want you Dads to listen to this short video. This is mainly about home schooling, WHICH YOU SHOULD CONSIDER. But, I want you to listen and think deeply about the text from the Gospel of Luke 6:40
Luke 6:40 The disciple is not above his master: but every one that is perfect shall be as his master.
Daddy, do you really want your kid to be like some teacher or school principal whom you do not know well, or whom you know very well is at variance with Bible doctrine, living standard, and mind set which you DO NOT approve of? You are a damned fool if you think you can go to the Throne of Grace and ask God to fix it after you hand over your son or daughter to study and live under the power of other people for nine months out of every year. God does NOT promise to fix willful sin just because you pray for your kids every day. BAH! What crass insanity.
WATCH THIS PLEASE.
Are your kids YOURS, or are they wards of a well meaning but twisted system that defines your kids OUT OF your home? DO NOT give me this pious rubbish that, "My kids belong to Jesus Christ." First off, they may not even be born again yet. If you, Daddy, send your unsaved kid off to be under another man's authority, you are a child abuser for not making sure, at you table and their bedside, that they come to Jesus. Jesus Christ gave those kids to you, and you are a blasted creep if you willingly run them out the door and claim Jesus will fix it up.
To any of you missionary boarding school principals
and teachers and dorm parents reading here--
Do you even know the personal teachings and doctrine of every kid in your class of dorm? Does anyone even have a record of that? Oh, yes, you know this one is a Baptist, and that one is a Lutheran. So what? Do you council each kid in the context of their Dad's doctrine and zeal? Impossible. The school has a rule that you cannot bring up any doctrine that conflicts with other kids' doctrines, right? So, you are limping on one leg from the get go. Stop kidding me. You are NOT a surrogate parent-- you are there to keep order and herd the masses along. The propaganda be damned.
For the record, missionary boarding school staff are welcome to write any time: firstname.lastname@example.org
DO NOT ask me if one of your students has written me. They come first here, and I will not help you attack them.
HERE IS A DOCUMENTARY ON THE MISSION SCHOOL PROBLEM
"There will be Africans in hell because of you if you tell what happens at this school."
Bob Jones University and other church entities train pedophiles and show them the way to escape prosecution
I do not approve of the allegorical presentation of truth in The Shack, but the author's experience as a missionary's kid is amazing. This story is all about a derelict father who did not care for his son. There is hell to pay, my friends.
would entertain comments from missionaries' kids by email:
I would have to caution you that if all you want to do is rant, I will dump your mail and not respond.
I do not need to hear how wonderful your experience was at missionary boarding school.
I know very well that some people have escaped these troubles, I am glad for you, and that's that.
I would entertain accounts of how various mission schools and headquarters have dealt with abuse.
Such accounts will be added and/or noted here if I can corroborate them.